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My Election Day 2008

Election Day began with the promise of change and the sound of my alarm clock beeping promptly at 5:45 in the morning. My husband took our dog downstairs to relieve herself while I hazily dressed in shorts and running shoes. We hit the road running, literally, at 6:30, and were in line at the polls by 6:35. The plan was to cast our vote and continue our morning run over the Brooklyn Bridge. What better way to jump start what was easily one of the most important dates in history, and in my life?

 

 

The lines at the polls were hundreds deep, and yet they had only been open 35 minutes. Even though lines annoy most New Yorker’s, they happen to be used to them, and so I found it humbling to join a line of people who were also in the mood for change. Needless to say, we never got to run over the bridge that morning. After waiting in line for 1 hour and 45 minutes there was only enough time to run home and get ready for work.

 

 

It was a long day in the office, simply because my Republican coworkers compensated for their election anxiety by teasing and making comments about my choice of candidates. I came home feeling defeated, and yet I knew in my heart there were no losers even if Barack Obama didn’t win. His candidacy alone represented progress.

 

 

For the last eight years the sight of the American flag has left me feeling both proud and embarrassed. But on Election Day, standing in line at the polls, I wanted to wrap myself in one, so as to be closer to the possibility and hope that permeated throughout the campaign.(Not to mention it was also cold standing there in running shorts!)

 

 

Our dog, a rescue who has two broken elbows and gets her bandages changed every Tuesday, came home from the vet decked out in a red, white and blue cast with stars all over it. Even my canine companion took part in the overwhelming patriotism of that day.

 

 

That evening we remained confined to our apartment and glued to our television screen. Friends of ours who live in the building and who recently moved from Michigan were coming over for dinner, and what we hoped would be celebratory drinks… an election party of sorts.

 

 

We gently berated the couple, who were Obama supporters, for not representing Michigan in the election, where their votes would have counted more. But it was inspiring to listen to the wife retell her three-hour experience on line at the polls. It was her first time voting – not because she was finally of age or because she just got her citizenship, but rather because it was the first time that she cared to.

 

 

I went from eating Thai food to eating my fingernails as many of the 50 states began to light up in blue. I uncorked a second bottle of wine after Obama took Pennsylvania. And then it happened. I’ll never forget Brian Williams’ victory announcement, “Eleven o’clock p.m. on the East coast, we’re back on the air and we have news: there will be young children in the White House for the first time since the Kennedy generation. An African-American has broken the barrier as old as the republic…” I kissed my husband, saw our friends well up in tears and immediately changed my status on FaceBook to reflect the pride I was feeling at that moment.

 

 

I called and woke up my father who went to bed thinking the results would not be in until the middle of the night, and told him the news. We watched John McCain’s graceful concession speech and waited patiently to see and hear from the new President Elect of the United States.

 

 

Then we joined the streets of Brooklyn where strangers hugged, danced and cheered. It was there that I was reminded of what is so peculiar and yet so familiar about being bound to strangers by such massive events in history – I had not been witness to something as profound and as shared, since 9/11.

 

 

Election night ended the same way it began, with the promise of change. Only the beeping I heard wasn’t coming from my alarm clock when I laid in bed that night, but from the cars on the streets below, celebrating the historic victory.

I’m A Married Woman!

Yesterday I married my lover and my best friend in front of 125 of our closest family and friends in the backyard of the home I grew up in in Northport, NY. I walked down the aisle barefoot with my mom and dad.

The ceremony was short and sweet. We wrote our own vows and a good friend of the family married us. There was a brief cocktail hour after and then we bussed our guests into New York City to celebrate in a loft on West 37th Street.

With little to no sleep, I am operating on adrenaline right now and getting ready for our big trip tomorrow. It’s off to France for two weeks! I hope I can unearth all that it is I am feeling while away and write a real post about our big day when we are back home and settled.

To Change or Not to Change

On an unusually warm weekend afternoon about a month ago, I walked into Diane T. on Court Street in Cobble Hill. They were having a sale and it was bedlam. I approached the sale rack and immediately a white sparkly number caught my eye. $750 marked down to $525. It was a hot dress but I was too overwhelmed by the crowd, the lack of ventilation, the price, and the fact that my fiance was waiting for me to return home (without shopping bags).

But I couldn’t get the dress out of my mind. I asked my friend Joie at work what she thought of a bride changing halfway through her wedding reception. A total diva, she replied, “Oh, I’ll change at least five times!” I told her about the sexy white frock that was marked down and that had caught my eye a few weeks earlier. She urged me right then and there to call the store and make sure they still had it.

The next day I was back at Diane T. I was met by the owner, Diane T., and a friendly and eager, young sales associate. The store was relatively empty as the two women prepped the tables and racks with colorful spring inventory.

I tried on the Catherine Malandrino dress (from the winter holiday collection) which was actually half off the originally marked $750! A steal at $375! It didn’t zip over my breasts, but looked dynamite everywhere else. I was pretty bummed.

When the young sales associate asked what it was for, I told her I was deliberating about changing into a party dress for the second half of my wedding in New York City. She loved the idea and shared in my disappointment that the dress did not fit. I felt defeated, so I did what any sensible shopper would do, I browsed the rack some more. I came across a black shirt-dress with flowy, butterfly-like sleeves. It fit and I loved the look. It too was half off, so I bought it.

As I approached the counter to pay, Diane T. asked what occasion the white dress would have been for. The young sales associate answered for me and told her it was for my wedding. The owner’s eyes widened then as her jaw dropped. She said she was going to guess that it was for my high school graduation. You could imagine her shock when I told her I was 30.

I could have kissed Diane T. when she said that, but instead a flood of other thoughts rushed through my head like, “What parent would ever let their 18 year old daughter wear that to her graduation? Was the graduate a star on Gossip Girl? Do I look like Billy Ray’s offspring? How would an 18 year old girl afford a dress like this? Am I really in the same salary cap as an 18 year old girl, or better yet, her parents?”

When the compliment wore off (by the way, I had my hair in a ponytail and was wearing a short, pink plaid dress, looking unusually young that day), a long conversation ensued about changing into a party dress halfway through the wedding. Christina Aguilera had done it, Ivana Trump most recently did it, and I learned that Diane T. had done it, too!

An hour after I entered the store I left two friends richer, and $125 poorer. I walked in for something white and walked out with something black and still don’t know if I am sold on changing from a gown and into a party dress on my wedding day. So I leave you, my readers, with this question: To change or not to change?

Mom, no need to take the poll, I already know your answer.

Letting Go of the Designer Name

I’ve finally found my wedding dress. Saying “finally” is kind of funny because it wasn’t like I had a hard time finding one, or two, or even three. When I shop, I’m impulsive and act with a kind of fervor that I would liken to a kid in a candy store. Want proof? I had my maid of honor’s dress picked out and paid for before I even began the search for my dress!

I wasn’t the least bit surprised when I saw what a non-traditional bride I was turning out to be. I didn’t want to wear white and wouldn’t be caught dead in a poof. So it made all the sense in the world that I should set out on my wedding dress hunt by targeting my favorite designer, Marchesa.

I bought dress #1 on the Internet: A champagne lace gown with a vintage appeal that I just adored. It was gorgeous, but somehow NOT right for a backyard, garden ceremony.
I sent it back.

Marchesa

Thanks to a sultry redhead who I shared a Saks Fifth Avenue dressing room with, along came dress #2: Monique Lhuillier’s Iman gown. While she tried on poofs, I tried on sleek, silky numbers that were akin to the lingerie I had hanging in my closet at home. When I put on the Iman I told her that I thought my fiance would approve and that he would probably devour me in it. She replied, “Are you kidding, I’d devour you in that!” So I bought the Iman at at a bottom-bargain, sample sale price, and told myself there were others after Britney who wore Monique on their wedding day. I took it home where it sat in a Saks garment bag in my closet for months, putting off the inevitable… the dress needed work. It turned out that the dress was going to cost more money to alter and preserve than I had paid for it. All I have to say is thank goodness for eBay.

Monique Lhuillier

When I was willing to let go of the designer name — hey, what can I say, I live in New York — I found dress #3. THE dress. I was with mom, not a mouse and not an anonymous redhead. Picture to come post-wedding… after all, some things should be a surprise!

Coming Full Circle

Technically my first ever blog post: Previously published on New York Women In Communcations’ Blog.

In 2002, I graduated from Baruch College with a bachelor’s degree in corporate communications. It was the summer after 9/11, the economy was stagnant, and so were my employment prospects. After a fruitless job search, I did what any young, passionate, unemployed student would do… I packed my bags and trekked through Europe and Morocco.

When I returned from my travels, I found work as a bartender and applied to the graduate business journalism program at Baruch, into which I was accepted. I had no practical business experience, but, ironically enough, it was through my bartending job in Brooklyn that I got my first break in the business world. I was a month into graduate school then, and the idea of having a desk job, in an office with professional people, was a very attractive one.

I was offered a well-paid internship at the New York Stock Exchange. During my three years there, I published an investigative article, was promoted to “financial consultant,” and graduated from Baruch with my master’s. With three years of financial services under my belt, I had no idea that I had begun to dig my way into a “career corner.” However, as I began to apply for other jobs, I realized that the only interviews I could get with a comparable salary were with other financial service companies like Refco, UBS, and finally, in 2005, Goldman Sachs.

I knew from Day 1 that the buttoned-down, corporate-culture at Goldman Sachs did not suit me. I found the environment to be stifling and impersonal, and worst of all, the very business writing skills that I had invested great time, energy, and money in learning were not being applied. In fact, I found myself writing little more than emails.

My career exploration needed to take another turn. I had inadvertently attained a successful career in financial services and wanted to find a way out. I went to networking events, and set up coffee, dinner and drink dates with contacts in the communications industry for nearly a year. Among the many conversations I had, I clearly recall one with a woman who was the managing director of a PR firm in NY. She put it into perspective for me: I had pigeonholed myself in an industry by blindly going after my paycheck and not my passion.

Change finally came this past January. I was hired for a financial news writing position that I had interviewed for exactly one year earlier. After my initial interview with the company, I had followed up by sending emails and attending other media events that they held. At the time, it seemed as though all my networking was for naught. However, the position was part of a web show that was being developed, and as it turned out, it took my current boss a full year to move forward in hiring. A steady combination of patience, perseverance, and networking had paid off.

Today, I am an in-house writer for a stock loan company. I write financial news scripts for an online web show that combines stock news with humor and entertainment. At long last, I have finally found the job that is a perfect fit. It may sound silly, but I would not have found my way if I had not at first been lost.

As for the corporate world that I left behind, let’s just say I like referring to it in the past tense. And as for my career, I’m often surprised to hear myself use the words “love” and “job” in the same sentence… but I’m beginning to get used to it.

A Piece of the NYC Real Estate Pie

Toren in Downtown Brooklyn.

Yesterday I took my piece of the New York City real estate pie. I put a chunky down payment on a new construction, one bedroom condo at the Toren in Downtown Brooklyn.

I’ve lived in this borough eight years. My fiancee Jason has lived here three years. He’s one of those Manhattan transplants who begrudgingly moves here and then doesn’t look back.

I know a one bedroom isn’t big but it’s a step up from the studio apartment we are living in now. And well, by New York City standards, it sort of is big. To own a piece of property in this big city is, let’s face it, big!

I hope we made the right move. I think we did. We love this borough. We love new construction and well, we love each other. The sum of all these things should add up to a happy home to come! Feeling very excited right now!